I can make any girl like me!! No, really, I can!!
A reader recently commented that I must have limiting beliefs because I inhabit a reality where not every woman I encounter in life wants me and/or can be persuaded into wanting me.
This kind of delusional thinking can lead people to behave in really off ways. Interrupting people who are focused on something and not getting the social cues that it’s time to move on. And so on.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s great if people remove certain limiting beliefs, and set goals. How awesome it is when people push beyond their boundaries and accomplish great things. An incomplete list of areas where this is great:
Losing weight and getting into shape
Self-defeating beliefs/thoughts/behaviors really need to be swept aside and this is one area where you can achieve great things. Setting goals and keeping to them, having discipline, reminding yourself that you can do it, all of these are awesome and achievable.
If you engage in negative self-talk, as it’s often called, and are constantly reminding yourself that you’re a loser, this is an area you need to address. And soon. Many are unconscious of the fact that underlying all their interactions is a little part of them that’s saying,
“This person doesn’t like me. I’m no good. I should just stop.” And so on.
These thoughts aren’t helping. There’s no telling why you have them and I’d recommend therapy (I’m not kidding) if you really struggle with this. At the very least try to raise your level of self-awareness and understand that you engage in that kind of mental banter.
Increasing social activity and reducing social anxiety
If you’re a person who has a hard time talking to strangers, you can absolutely make headway here. You may be quite uncomfortable because you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone and talk to people. You’ll be tempted to throw in the towel and give up. You’ll find that sometimes when you’re trying to be more outgoing and social with someone they don’t want any part of it.
Aye, there’s the rub
And this is a good segue into my main point. Sure, you can persuade people and influence them to do things. Sure, you may be able to elicit a positive or semi-positive response from them, or even get them to re-consider whether or not they want anything to do with you. But your power over yourself doesn’t extend to other people. I should repeat that.
Your power over yourself doesn’t extend to other people.
Despite what some tell you (or sell you), you are not a magical wizard who can make anyone like you no matter what. Life isn’t fair. Accept reality.
And if you’re counting the effects of alcohol on a target as part of your arsenal, you’re not being honest with yourself about what’s happening when you persuade them into doing what you want.
Ever had someone come up to you and say, “Hey man, can I ask you something?” This is how a lot of guys, including advanced loser
puas, come off when they go up to girls. Embarrassing and awkward to watch. I think of the panhandler analogy often because the vibe that panhandlers give off is the same terrible vibe a guy gives off when he approaches a girl and wants something. When we wants something to happen, when he wants to make something happen with his game.
Been there. Done that.
Do panhandlers ever get something? Sure. Sometimes they get that quick sympathy/here’s some change now leave me the fuck alone “donation”. Just the same way that sometimes you can tip the scales in your favor.
But what about those that simply aren’t interested?
Think of all the people who know from the start that the panhandler is offering them nothing and wanting something in return, so they just ignore them? How many of these people does the panhandler see in a given day, as opposed to the other camp?
Straight from the Hamster’s mouth
Despite the fact that this girl couldn’t be more vacuous, this is a fair representation of the way a lot of girls “think”. Descend into her matrix for a moment, if you dare:
Red Light, Green Light
Ever been driving and every light you hit is green? What amazing luck, right? Then other times every light is red, and you’re pissed and cursing the universe. Or maybe you’re chill about it. And other times some are red and some are green.
Sometimes you drive a little faster, anticipating the light will change and manage to catch it. Sometimes not.
Do you ever think you are a magical creature and that somehow the way you drive is the cause of whether or not the lights are red or green?
Think about this. I hope you catch my drift.
One of the biggest lessons in life is that of humility, and accepting that some women aren’t into you, or are otherwise attached. If life is kind, when you make a move the girl will be flattered and appreciative, and you’ll learn one lesson. If she’s not, you’ll hopefully learn another lesson.*
Further down the road, the girl will be trying to persuade you to give her what you have to offer. But that’s another topic entirely.
*These principles apply to many aspects of life, not just women.