As always, I preach to myself, that I may instill lessons learned of late, in this latest chapter of manhood. Read along if you wish.
If you’re incapable of making decisions that put your family first, even though your selfish desires would have you decide otherwise, you’ve not yet reached manhood. You’re still in the throes of adolescence.
If you must gratify your ego rather than make rational, mature decisions which weigh the options and put the good of your family first, you’ve not yet grown up. You’re still cutting your teeth.
Manhood is forged in the difficult moments when others wait for your decision, when the pressure is on. How you respond in these moments makes you, or breaks you. And when broken, you have to choose whether to give up and sink or to rise and try again. Over time, you withstand the pressure in different ways, and learn to hold it together.
Growing up happens in those moments when you realize
what who is truly precious in your life and that you must put your own selfish desires aside to ensure that they have what they need now, and in the future. You may not be able to guarantee this, but it’s your job as a man to try.
There’s nothing inherently wrong with being in adolescence, even if it is extended. However, as men we must see things for what they are. The trappings of manhood do not manhood make.
When faced with decisions, we often cannot see that we’ve trapped ourselves in the eddy of ego gratification. We spin and turn like a bug caught in the bottom of a glass, thinking we are free simply because we see through it and some light comes in. What folly when we make the most important decisions based on protecting our egos.
A most certain way to err in life is by making decisions based on what you think others think you should do.
When balancing the scale with your family on one side and your ego on the other, how do you measure up? For some men there’s but a feather on one, and gold on the other.